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    self:
        I hear you've got tickets for Matrix Reloaded tomorrow night?

    cashier:
        We do!

    self:
        10:00?

    cashier:
        We don't have a lot of tickets for that time left.

    self:
        That's fine. I just need two.

    cashier:
        Let me check.. No, we only have one ticket left. I can give you two for the 10:10 showing, though.

    self:
        Y'know, I think she's sleeping with someone else.

    cashier:
        ...what?

    self:
        One ticket will be fine.

    cashier:
        Sir, it's just ten minutes later.

    self:
        No. It's always ten minutes later. This has to stop somewhere.

    cashier:
        So... just the one ticket?

    self:
        Please.

Most of my friends have purchased their tickets to the 10pm showing already. And two of them bought extra tickets, unsure whether their dates would be available that evening. They asked Jason and I to not buy ours yet, as this provided a backup plan if the girls fell through. They'd know by Saturday whether those seats were taken. (We weren't offered anything in exchange for our participation, but this is the level of respect afforded to single guys.)

It was only a few days, so we agreed to do them this favor.

Saturday came and went without a word. Left messages on Sunday, noted idly on Monday that I hadn't heard back from anyone. Today, I made cybervoodoo dolls of those two in photoshop and arranged for horrible things to befall them.

Well, no. I made that last part up. But as I walked up to the box office, I did wish their dates would cancel at the last minute so they could go out-of-pocket and experience the natural consequence of poor communication themselves.

Anyway, one ticket didn't really buy the statement I was going for. So, I just lashed out at the fine institution of dating instead. It was mean-spirited and probably sexist, but at least that cashier will remember me later.

*sigh*

The ticket's yours if you need it, Jason. I've got work in the morning, and this film's bound to come out on video eventually.

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akatalin
May. 13th, 2003 10:41 pm (UTC)
lol
I forgot that movie was coming out ...

is she candian?
self
May. 14th, 2003 03:27 am (UTC)
Fortunately, they have multi-billion dollar ad campaigns to remind us.
Not Canadian, no. I don't hang out with nearly enough people from that region, so her amalgamated persona would probably have come out as Paul Schaefer.
20three
May. 13th, 2003 10:47 pm (UTC)
a good guy friend of mine called me up last night to see if I wanted to get tickets to the Matrix Reloaded with him. I was happy because I just moved to the area and I don't know too many people to go see movies with...besides my uncle who I am living with. My guy friend said,"This girl hasn't called me back, and my buddy is basing his decision on when to go once he hears from his girlfriend on what her plans are and... - do you just want to go with me?"

I was happy and a little deflated at the same time. Gee - can I be the one to go with you seeing as though all of your other options have fallen through?

Hope you enjoy the flick - I'm looking forward to it :)

self
May. 14th, 2003 03:43 am (UTC)
At least they don't feel they have to lie about it.
I find it's good to take people for granted at the beginning of a relationship. This leaves more room for insincere flattery later on, when you need it.

umm.. hi!

No clue why I'm so cynical tonight. I've made that same phone call more than once. In my case, it basically amounts to "You seem to be wary about spending time with me, lest I get the wrong impression, so I want you to know that I'm trying to avoid putting you in that position. This is casual. Okay?"
20three
May. 14th, 2003 09:11 am (UTC)
Re: At least they don't feel they have to lie about it.
I need to remain "just friends" with this friend because he used to date a friend of mine back home. No need for flattery - but I could have done without hearing the reason for choosing me to go with him :)

cynicism is okay in small doses :)

I don't think I ever introduced myself when I added you to my friends list - or may I did. Either way - hello!
self
May. 14th, 2003 10:02 am (UTC)
another perspective
There is a difference between accepting your reasons to not date him, and him not wanting to date you. The key here is that your reason is grounded in the past - people change, and it's importance will diminish over time. Unless you've demonstrated an uncanny ability to predict the future, you're classified as "maybe someday." Which means enjoying what's there now, and seeing what happens.

It may be that he's just insensitive, but I think you're seeing a bit of "I won't play this card now, but I'm not ready to discard it either." under the surface.

Again, I don't think it's a bad thing. He does respect that it isn't your time yet, and seems to be pursuing other options, which means he's not fixated stalker-guy. But in the end, after your friend back home has been married for a while and all ties are more-or-less forfeit, cultivating a little hope might actually prove fruitful. I mean, the only thing you know for sure is that it's not a possibility in the foreseeable future. Times change. Guys know that.

Of course, I could be completely wrong. I'm not a therapist, and it's not like I've ever talked to him. It's just what gut instinct from this side of a platonic friendship tells me. Experience will vary.
20three
May. 14th, 2003 01:10 pm (UTC)
interesting perspective, here's another...
it's funny, this guy is one of those guys I see as "just a friend" - but does that really exist? CAN guys and gals just be friends? Or do they always have that instinct inside to hook-up and move past it just to see if there is any potential?

I have some guy friends who have always been just that, my friend. No crossing the line. But there are a few who I meet up with later in the friendship and find that...oooh oooh, there's something there!

I understand that times change, people change, and eventually his ex will move on and he is fair game. The thing about this dude, super friendly to ALL women. I have seen him in action. He is too nice for his own good. Yes, I have thought about him in the "non-friends" way, but I just don't think I could go there with him. I'm keeping this one as a buddy.

Just my perspective...
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